5 Healthy Self-Improvement Tips
Life keeps us distracted with a lot of things, whether it be school, work, relationships, or current events. While this is important, because we focus on so much around us, we sometimes forget about ourselves for a moment. It’s important to ask this: how am I doing in all this and am I happy…?
Self-improvement is a lifestyle. The great thing about self-improvement though is that you can start anywhere whether those steps be big or small. If you don’t know where to start, here are some general words of wisdom to help you out.
1) Love Yourself
Before you can think about anybody else, remember that you come first, too. We often say we love ourselves, but our actions might say otherwise. Your happiness, wants, and needs are just as important as anyone else’s. It’s not selfish to love ourselves. Treat yourself once in a while or do something you’ve always wanted to do. Once a day try to find something positive about yourself no matter how big or small. Be honest with yourself and others about yourself so that everyone is on the same page and set boundaries if need be. Forgive yourself for past mistakes so that you can move on. Do what you need to do to be you — find out what makes you feel good.
2) Be Realistic
It’s important to be realistic with others but most importantly yourself. We set so many expectations for ourselves that we often forget some are out of reach. We expect perfection when we know very well perfection isn’t possible. Living like this can be mentally exhausting and puts a lot of pressure on ourselves. Be clear about your values, wants, and needs, and evaluate those expectations you put on yourself. And don’t be afraid to ask for help from others so they can help you stay on track.
3) Positive Mental Attitude
It’s easier for people to find something negative about ourselves or a situation. Negative thoughts become habitual. It takes a positive attitude to achieve a positive outcome. No one else is in control of how you feel except you. Negative situations are a reality, however, and that’s not to say we shouldn’t accept them, but the way we look at them can change.
4) End the Sorry Reflex
As easy as it is to be negative, it’s just as easy to say sorry. If you’ve ever seen that episode of Barbie Vlogs, “Sorry Reflex”, you know this holds true for not only girls but for anybody who tends to be over apologetic, including myself. It’s something we say more often than we should. In doing so, we make it seem as if whatever goes wrong is somehow our fault — things like “Sorry I’m late,” “Sorry for bumping into you,” “Sorry I forgot to do this”, or “I’m sorry for feeling sad”. While it’s OK to apologize when we’ve done something wrong and to consider other’s feelings, it’s not OK when it starts to become habitual even when we didn’t do anything. That’s when she points out there’s so much more power in the words “Thank you” than sorry — “Thank you for waiting for me” or “Thank you for understanding”. Consider throwing out the old vocabulary for something more positive and empowering. It’ll change the way you think and feel when you do it.
5) Be Ready to Accept Change
Life goes on and so should you. This kind of goes back to the whole idea of being realistic. In order for things to change in your life, you have to be the one to make that change. No one else is responsible for you except you. Whether it be about your health, relationships, or something more, when you acknowledge and accept change, it allows you to grow and deal with those necessary shifts in your life to move forward.